Some like to get very graphic while some like myself like to keep it a bit mild. However, I do get a little on the hot and heavy side, without the whole 'let's get into the porn' side of things.
There can be mad passion, without the many visuals having to explain all that goes on between the lovers. How big it is, how hot it is or how wet things have become..LOL And yet, if written well, all will get the whole mental view.
Things can be so hot the lovers never make it to the bedroom...nope they are nude before they even make it up the stairs and locked in a rush of heated romance right there and then...but does one really need to describe what hangs and coming at what waits? To this writer, I don't think one has to, to get the point across...no pun..LOL
I personally love to read a great book about romance, be it a paranormal novel or contemporary as long as the sex scenes are not written like some sloppy, graphic porn movie put into word. Passion in bed can be a beautiful thing to read about if well written. No, I am not saying that I write it well, because I have a lot to learn about writing the sexual side of a romantic scene, but I have read some amazing work where the author did not go into graphic details, describing the bits and parts and what they were doing...as is using words that are found in porn. 'He shoved his **** deep inside her *****' like really....I think most would get that idea.
But...to each his own! There will always be readers who do not like to read porn, and there will always be readers who love it. I for one will always be one of the writers who will keep her work as clean as she can, with still giving her readers some hot steamy sex. True, I will not talk about the ins and outs of the private parts, but I may mention how endowed a character may be, and how his mates warmth is waiting that manhood...but that is about as graphic as this writer can force herself to get. ; )
Sex is a very natural thing and something that has always been a part of human nature...and it always will be. I think it rocks that we can have our own blogs to talk about whatever we want on this and any other subject and that is why I dig this post!
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